There comes a moment when you realize…
You’re stuck in patterns you don’t fully understand.
Shame.
Fear.
People-pleasing.
Perfectionism.
And no matter how hard you try — you can’t seem to break free.
This is where Untangled began.
PERSONAL STORY
I’m a sinner saved by grace.
Over the years, I’ve worn many roles — a Colonel in the Air Force, a life coach, a counselor.
But this part of my journey is different.
It started with a question:
Could something deeper be keeping people stuck?
And more importantly —
Could there be a way to break free?
HOW THE BOOK STARTED
Just a little over a year ago, Angela and I began meeting to explore this.
We weren’t just talking theory.
We were talking about real struggles:
• Shame
• Rejection
• People-pleasing
• Perfectionism
The kinds of patterns that quietly shape lives — and keep people stuck.
We spent hours in honest conversation.
Not surface-level.
Not polished.
Real.
TURNING POINT MOMENT
At one event, I spoke about my journey.
Not perfectly. Not comfortably.
But honestly.
And something happened.
There was a shift.
Freedom isn’t created by hiding.
It begins with truth.
That moment became a catalyst.
WRITING PROCESS
Angela invited me to write.
Not just ideas — but truth.
We worked through it together across different places and seasons.
We challenged each other.
We refined the message.
And slowly, something powerful began to take shape.
WHAT “UNTANGLED” REALLY MEANS
This book isn’t just about information.
It’s about recognizing what’s been holding you back.
And finally letting go.
Because most people don’t realize they’re stuck in patterns like:
Fear
Insecurity
Shame
Rejection
Comparison
Judgment
People-pleasing
Stress
Perfectionism
Lack of purpose
Until they pause and really look.
INTERNAL STRUGGLE
I won’t pretend this process was easy.
Fear showed up.
Doubt showed up.
I questioned myself:
“Is this really worth sharing?”
“What will people think?”
Maybe you’ve had those same thoughts.
SHIFT TO READER
So let me ask you:
Who is helping you grow?
Who challenges you to become more?
Who helps you see what you can’t see on your own?
Because real change rarely happens alone.
And more importantly…
What do you need to become untangled from?
Take a moment and be honest with yourself.